What is Compassionate Inquiry ?

Allowing your self to speak from your heart with some who can listen with compassion and understand you helps you connect with a a deeper sense of yourself, to feelings, experiences and memories that may have been hidden and enables your true-self to be known and mirrored in a new and empathetic way.

For all of us , vulnerability is both the most feared and the most rewarding experience - but only by being vulnerable can we really come to know ourselves or others in a way that is not just cognitive 'knowing'. Though at first emotional-intuitive knowing can be confusing, clarity emerges as you come to know its pathways and feel more real, grounded, connected , loving and empowered.

Who we are today has been highly influenced by the experiences we have had in the past, particularly in childhood, because the way we are treated and the messages we have internalized, at a time of innocence, lay the foundations for what we feel about ourselves.

Although these experiences may no longer be part of our conscious awareness in everyday life, nevertheless they they effect the choices we make and the way we react or respond in the present.

Many people have grown up with little sense of being seen for who they are - but rather have had to adapt and comply to the expectations of parents and others. However this can lead to feelings of emptiness, hopelessness, anger, sadness or shame about being unknown, unheard or misunderstood. This can manifest as a sense of "joyless striving" or depression, constant anxiety that seems inexplicable, or a sense of shame about ones feelings and needs.

For some, there may have been physical / sexual, and / or emotional abuse - or other 'secrets' - in the family that have not been allowed to be told.

Dr. Brene Brown who has researched vulnerability also says that " vulnerability is absolutely essential to whole hearted living". Vulnerability is not weakness, it is the ultimate courage. The thing that gets in the way of valuing vulnerability is shame. Shame is the experience that cripples us and make us want to run and avoid our truth.

You might like to watch these you-tube videos for your interest:

Brene Brown: The power of vulnerability

Brené Brown: Listening to shame

Brenne Brown : Blame

I can't promise that the process will be pain-free , old fears as well as needs, loves and longings are bound to emerge, but if you allow your heart to open, the increased connection to yourself and others is worth it.

Contact Linde Rose at:
Ph: 09 849 3953 / 027 440 6331
Email: linderose@hearttalk.nz
Pt Chevalier. Auckland.

“There are those, that are not frightened of grief: dropping deep into the sorrow, they find therein a necessary elixir to the numbness. When they encounter one another, when they press their foreheads against the bark of a centuries-old tree…their eyes well with tears that fall easily to the ground. The soil needs this water. Grief is but a gate, and our tears a kind of key opening a place of wonder that’s been locked away. Suddenly we notice a sustaining resonance between the drumming heart within our chest and the pulse rising from the ground.”

by David Abram

Links to articles:

Boundaries are essential to empowerment.

Fear of Closeness (Alaine De Botton)

Mature Complaining (Alaine De Botton)